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I cannot believe this has happened, I am devastated and can’t get my head round why you felt you had to do this…. Kelly you knew I was and always would have been here for you….
I am truly going to miss a good friend I found in you.
Hopefully Kelly you are now at peace and I can only apologise I can’t say goodbye to you…
I just hope you have a better time where you are now….. big hug to you xx R.I.P mrs…xx

Sally Glover

Kelly was one of the nicest kindest funniest people I knew, she wasn’t afraid of saying anything even if some people frowned upon it, she only ever spoke the truth. When we helped Kelly move into her house and the goat appeared at her front door it was hilarious and she told us if she left her front door open it would just walk in the kitchen.  I enjoyed working and socialising with Kelly whether we were out in town having a boogie, in a restaurant or at Sally’s for a Chinese, she was always making us chuckle.  Mental illness is a very cruel thing to have to go through and unless you have ever suffered you will never truly understand,  I just hope Kelly has now found the peace she deserves, good night lovely lady xxxx

Tracy Doughty at New Linx

Kelly Kelly Kelly!!

Cant believe you are no longer with us, how very sad. We all loved and cared  for you, i used to love having you round mums as u was such good company! Such a warm hearted loving women…!!!! One of the most nicest of people i know! Oh god why was u so silly…we will never know.

Mum is devastated but so are we all….ii really hope you have now found your peace …

R.i.p women,…. Will miss you ♥️♥️♥️

Lots of love Sammi Kirk xx

Gretta

I knew Kelly from a very short period of a few months working alongside the ‘girl from Wales’, as she described herself to me, at Lincolnshire County Council.

A really brief and simple message: I enjoyed working with Kelly, I valued the work she did to help me, I miss her, and she’s in my prayers.

Charles Ferrar

Kelly was my job-share partner in the Transportation Group at City Hall, Lincolnshire County Council.

I’d only known and worked with Kelly for a few months; but in that time we’d become good friends. She was a lovely lady to work alongside with. She was kind, had a good sense of humour, was a hard worker and totally reliable. I just feel so sad and devastated at her loss. God bless Kelly, will miss you so very much.

Lynn Bowry xx

I knew Myfanwy/Kelly from Lincolnshire County Council.

Although I only knew her for a short while, she was such a friendly face, and always happy to help with a smile. At a recent ‘guess the baby competition’ in the office, Kelly submitted such a beautiful baby photo of herself, smiling from ear to ear. Kelly, and her children and family, are in my thoughts and prayers.

We will miss you Kelly x

Elizabeth Hanger

I knew Kelly from the army days. I was devasted when Brian and her broke up. She was a fun kid and life just kept hitting her.

So “private” funeral, SHAME! and no message from anyone in her family. No wonder she felt alone. Poor kid. We loved you Kelly xxx

Trace Goodall

Kelly, you did have friends and they were there for you best they could be. It’s so very sad that you have left us and that your friends couldn’t say goodbye to you. I’m sure you are at peace now which is what you had been looking for in life. I can’t say words of support anymore but the hours we have talked, the tears we shared showed how much I tried to help your pain. I can’t give you the supporting hug or listen anymore to your troubles which were so very deep within you, but you are in my thoughts and i want to say how it really shouldn’t have come to this but hope you got now the relief from everything in your life.

Be at peace now Kelly. Forever in my thoughts

Love Wendy Newsham xxx

I knew Kelly from her work with the Transportation Group, Lincolnshire County Council.

It was a great shock, not just to me, but to all staff in the Transportation Group when we heard the news that Kelly had passed away. She’d only been working here for a short time but she had made many friends. From day one she wasn’t afraid to ask questions and was always keen to learn. She wanted to understand everything. Although she’d let people know some details of her past, she never opened fully (which is understandable given that we were all new in her life).

I read the story of Kelly’s life with a heavy heart and wish I’d have been able to help her more during our short time working together. Kelly, you were such a lovely lady and I’m so sorry that no-one was able to give you the help you need. You’re in my thoughts.

Sandy Carruthers

I knew Myfanwy/Kelly from NewLinx.

So sad you felt that way you had so much to live for … Its such a shame we do not always realise just how much we are thought of when we are here. But you were well liked as a workmate and friend by all those on shift and by family and friends. R.I.P.

Unsure I like this method but felt I had to put something as I am so moved to think someone would feel so low they had to take their own life – bless you x

Katherine York

Kelly worked for me as my secretary in the Transportation Group at Lincolnshire County Council.

Kelly was a lovely kind hearted and cheerful lady indeed the last time I saw her on the Friday before she died we wished each other a nice weekend and said we would see each other the following Wednesday. She had that lovely smile on her face, little did I know what was to come. Reading her life storey, it is so sad that she never felt truly wanted and loved and that she felt the need to take such drastic action.

I along with others will miss her and I pray that she is now at peace

God Bless Kelly

Chris Briggs

I have known Kelly since about 2004 when your children were at primary school together in Scamblesby.

My thoughts are all over the place at the moment, with deep regrets that I failed her and with great love and tears of the friendship that we had. To Kelly, I will let everybody know at some point, what kind of lovely lady you were and the daft things we got up to….Have a lovely sleep my angel…xx

Andrea Wilson

Am so sorry to hear about the tragic ending of Kelly’s life. I met Kelly when she worked at Louth hospital and had to spend some time with me every week. I got to know Kelly a little but most of the time she talked about her family and it sounded so perfect, she loved her kids. Kelly left the hospital and I didn’t see her again till I saw her walking down the road in Saltfleetby, where I live, with her dog. I stopped to speak but she didn’t give much away, we promised a catch up seeing as though we were neighbours but I never got to see her again. So sad I feel I could have empathized with her as my mum died after I was born so I know exactly how she felt about that anyway. Hope your at peace now Kelly. My heart goes out to her family.

Gina Ellis

Well Kelly..we all wanted to come and say goodbye to u..but we wasn’t allowed..so we all met up to day to ave a beer for ya…Rest in peace my dear friend xx

Sally Glover

Its a shame we couldnt say our goodbyes to you properly missy, but today we all met up and raised a glass for you. U was/are still loved and liked by many and i hope today you was looking down on us all that cared and loved you for who you was. It didnt feel right that you wasnt there with us but deep down each and everyone of us know ur overlooking us all…hope we made u smile up there kelly. It shouldnt be this way but sadly it is…..Love & miss you!! Xxxx

Sammi Kirk

Kelly brought sunshine to the whole team here at Lincolnshire County Council, only occassionally did we see glimpses of the difficulties and sadness that were such dominant forces in her life. Kelly was so interested in everyone around her, keen to support others as well as to know about the task in hand. Kelly talked about her family and was clearly very proud of her children – the young adults that they were becoming. We are all thinking of Kelly’s family at this very sad time and miss her greatly.

Vanessa Strange

I knew Kelly from TSP, Lincs County Council.

It is such a shame that when surrounded by so many people, Kelly, it now seems clear, felt so alone. The comments and thoughts on this page make it obvious that Kelly was a valued person, even though it appears that she didn’t think so. She was always so keen to help and get things right in the office, with no hesitation to ask when she needed something clarified. It has been strange coming back from a week off and not seeing her at her desk ready for action. I pray that she is now at peace.

John Monk

Kelly and I met at Lincolnshire County Council where we had both started new jobs at roughly the same time. In the short time that I knew Kelly I grew very fond of her. I could see in her some of the struggles that I have had myself but her smile and laugh were contagious. I wish that I had more time to get to know her better as I enjoyed spending time chatting with her whenever we got the chance. Kelly was an amazing person and I will truely miss her, I still expect to pop in to her office and see her there. I hope that peace is with her now and I wish that I could have helped her more. Kelly will always be in my thoughts and prayers.

Amanda Manns

I knew Kelly through my wife and socialised with them quite often. She was always chatty and always good company and will be sorely missed at every social gathering, but we will always have a drink for you. RIP Kelly

Lee Doughty

Miss you ❤

Sally Glover

Thinking of you every day missy, we all miss you soo much!
Hope your enjoying ur peace, love you♥

Sammi Kirk

Still thinking of you mrs, found a couple of vases you gave me when I moved so gave 1 to Sally so we both have a little reminder of you and you will be with us always xx

Tracy Doughty

Another day has come again,
As time moves surely on,
But nothing now seems quite the same,
To know that you have gone.

The days and weeks and months ahead,
Will never be the same,
Because a treasure beyond words,
Can never be replaced.

We all miss you still missy, and always will. Rest in peace beautiful xx

Sammi Kirk

Always thinking of you madam, forever and always in our thoughts! Miss you soo much!! Take care & a merry christmas to you, shine bright ♥️♥️

Sammi Kirk

Ello mrs had a drink for you the other day at sallys for you for her birthday, wasn’t the same without u there but always in our thoughts.

Merry Christmas xx

Tracy Doughty

Omg mrs….i cant believe how much u have been in my head the last fews days..i miss u soo much its unreal..wish u was here with us all still..merry christmas to u..hope u enjoyin urself up above…luffs ya xx

Sally Glover

MERRY CHRISTMAS BEAUTIFUL ANGEL♥️ MISS U ALWAYS♥️

Samantha Kirk

Happy New Year mrs, we will always miss you but hopefully your new year will be spent with loved ones and all your pain and suffering has gone, let your spirit fly free and always be happy xxx

Tracy Doughty

Nearly your birthday missy; one that should be spent with us crazy lot!! Were celebrate it for you aslong as your watching down on us all, will raise a glass for u! You are truely missed by each and every one of ur friends! Loveyou always xx

Samantha Kirk

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Samantha @konnee

A year today youve been with the angels, it doesnt seem that long ago, still today it doesnt feel real. We all miss you so much, especially my mum. Hope ur resting in peace, xxxx

Samantha Kirk

I knew Myfanwy/Kelly from her army days in Germany and after when she worked in St. James’s Square and lived in Kilburn in London.

I met Myfanwy in 1981-82 and at that time I called her Muvs. I remember she hated the name and so I was not surprised when she officially changed her name to Kelly. We were both data-telegraphists based in Rheindahlen. Muvs really loved to party – she always looked great and had such excellent fashion sense. I remember she loved dancing and looked great on the dance floor. We both left the forces around the same time and as we had similar plans we kept in contact – we both moved to London. We helped each other out in our new found civilian life – I got Kelly a job in St. James’s Square and she let me stay at her flat in Kilburn. I remember she also tried to help me to learn how to drive – she had a red mini at the time which I think belonged to her boyfriend (who became her first husband) – but she quickly stopped at one driving lesson, as I think I freaked her out as we hurtled down Kilburn High Street a little out of control. I am so, so sorry that her life ended in such a sad way and that she became a troubled soul. But in my memory, she will always be Muvs, and remain a 20 year old, dancing to 80’s music with that lovely smile of hers.

Lynda Donnelly

I was looking at one of the photos from day in the Army late 70’s early 80’s and saw the one with Myfanwy/Kelly and I thought I would see if I could find where she might be now.  But sadly I came across the web page with her obituary on it.  It was with great sadness that I read her life story and that she lost her battle with her troubles.

Reading about her time in the Army I must confess that I might well have been part of the jokes about her name, I am not making any excuses but it was the Army and in that era – and I am sure it still goes on today – we took the mickey out of each other which people who haven’t been in the forces might find inappropriate.  Also we might not have taken into account what that person might be going through.  I know I had a lot of jokes were made about my surname over the years (i.e. as it is Homer I got asked on countless times, was I a homosexual etc.), but I took it in the context it was meant; i.e. to see if I would get angry/annoyed with it which would mean those making the jokes had won.

Myfanwy was to the best of memory – it has been 40 odd years – a fun loving girl and gave as good as she got; but on reading her story she hid her pain well. I am very sorry if I did anything back then to make her pain worse.

I have posted her story on one of the Army FB pages which is the Squadron I and she served in when I met her.  I have included a photo taken around the summer 1979.  I am on left with the mug in my hand.  Please pass on my condolences to Kelly’s family for me and tell them that her passing is a sad loss to the world.

Steve Homer

I am so so sad to read about Kelly. I knew her at Sandhurst and I remember a lovely funny girl that I loved being around.  I was only thinking about her the other week and to read this is heart breaking.

Rest in peace my lovely Myfanwy. XXX

Ian Kitson